I just cant stand the sight of him I really feel for women out there with this problem too. Ahhhh to vent and know I am not a big bitch others same boat! Take the things away from him that enforce being lazy and if he wants to watch T. Going up and down stairs has become a chore for him, and getting up from seated positions seem uncomfortable not to mention he just plops down when he sits. The problem is not so much that your husband is rejecting you sexually as it is that, because he is so consumed with something else, he is unable to feel aroused or excited. Now he tips the scale which he bought, not me at 200 lbs. I guess I just don't understand why he is not willing to exercise or change his habits being that he almost died before and this is his second chance at life. It is just that we as people just have to be willing to be accountable for how we contributed to the issue.
All I needed was to show that I cared about myself. In my opinion my husband could be 350+. We both had high sex drives, and he still wanted to do it practically every day. Some of us have endocrine problems that are extremely difficult to control. It's not about fairytales and romance. But our respect for our husbands goes even further than that. Have you really taken time to find out what he really wants in the bedroom? The first thing I did was change my diet.
That is a lot of Americans. In our day of passionate counterattacks against the superficial standards of beauty shoved at us by television, magazines, and movies, you risk being scolded as selfish for not accepting your husband just as he is, without any regard to his appearance. Naombi Shokes i have a this same problem. Now he is overweight and drinks every night plus has horrible hygiene. That night he gave me the silent treatment as well.
As I got to high school I got caught staring at a girl's boobs and one girl's body and was made fun of pretty bad. I think there must be a connection between obesity and erection! We made a deal about a bet, and if I lost I had to strip for her and some of her girlfriends on a birthday party. Maybe he is and he doesn't realize it?? Sometimes hearing something from a stranger has more effect than hearing it from your spouse, you know? So I came up with a plan, using the only leverage I had. What is wrong with this woman wanting to have sex, wanting a spouse that can do things? Now, months into our relationship, he admitted that he had the fear of being alone for the rest of his life. Lately we go months without sex. Good job on the bang, champ.
I always have to be on top during sex because the gravity of his sagging stomach affects his errection and his penis appears smaller because of his fatty pubic mound. I am not saying that it will always be easy. Men are so visually oriented, that a woman who has let herself go can turn her husband off similar to how an emotionally detached man turns off a woman. And, just as much as I try to take care of myself so that we can have a long life, I want the same from him. I have been supportive, I am so good to this man, I try to buy good food and encourage him, but he goes out to eat everyday, Pizza, hamburgers, chips, cakes, and it makes me sick! He now waddles when he walks.
Definitely do some research and see what he may be open to. Wrongly accuse him, and you may end up with a new issue on your hands. I know many women who belittle their husbands in public without realizing it. I cannot condone on your wife for any reason. I totally understand how you feel. A lot of men may go to the gym and lift weights, and that can certainly help. I definitely believe if you can get him to buy into taking better care of himself and getting in better shape, that it will increase the desire for sexual activity and his ability to perform at a higher level.
I just couldn't be honest with him. He may remain fat and smelly for the rest of his life, but the drinking and smoking isn't something you need to tolerate, he should go to a counselor. Proceed with caution, and in the case where it ends up to be true, do not internalize the issue. You can't expect him to quit drinking and smoking all at once. How could somebody such as Rob ever like or love a person like me? Part of that comes from feeling disrespected. He also cannnot hold the erection long and has to work really hard to get through sex. And the Freshman Fifteen turned into the Freshman Fifty—plus.
I tried to lose weight because I thought I would make more friends. With Mike, I was too self-conscious to know my worth. Because you react this way, other factors may negatively affect your marriage. I am doing it for me. You also envy women who can pull off sexy, tight fitting dress and you hope that you can do it too. His unwillingness to move, workout, do anything is so unattractive to me.
Does your weight interfere with your health? But lets weigh the two outcomes that are likely to happen,your husband can go back to being the man you married which will be disappointing to know that your marriage is based on physical attraction. Romance and love is all well and good, but sometimes, no matter how much you try to let people in, shutting one's self down is the only way to go lest despair eat you up, and kill you eventually. I gritted my teeth and ran through it, but it slowed me down just enough for him to touch my elbow. I am 5'6 and 130lbs. She also correctly points out that weight gain and changes in appearance contribute to the issue. However, the point can be made that if he is having one, there is a good chance your actions or lack thereof have contributed to this occurring.